Last updated: 7/2009

If You Allow A Bipolar Husband, Wife Or Partner To Be A Part Of Your Life, Married To Mania Is The Owners Manual You Must Have To Survive. Before You Or Your Partner Makes One More Mistake Resulting In Financial Or Emotional Devastation, Read This Book.
Are you married to someone with Bipolar Disorder?
Are you dating or engaged to someone you suspect has Manic Depression?
Stop walking on eggshells. Stop doubting yourself and wondering, "What can I do to make this relationship better..?"
The Chaos Is
NOT YOUR FAULT!
Please¡­Take a moment to find out how you can restore hope about your future. Discover all the answers you've been searching for about how to love someone diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder¡­

Dear Friend and Fellow Spouse of a Bipolar Partner,

Finally, There's A Book for Stressed-Out Spouses
I'm Elizabeth Atlas, author of the new book, "Married To Mania: Jumping the Shark* Without a Seatbelt." It's a funny title for a topic that is far from funny¡­heartbreaking, in fact.

This book is about how to find your footing with a bipolar husband or wife and preserve your sanity in a marriage or relationship that's built on quicksand. Where everyday is a new dawn, and nothing in your past can prepare you for what will happen today, tomorrow or next year.

It's a given: You love your bipolar wife, husband or partner very much. You do not say "bipolar" as one of the top 10 adjectives you use to describe the love-of-your-life to other people. "Bipolar" may not even be in the top 100!

But if you're like me, "bipolar" is on your mind all the time. Your bipolar radar flashes when you second guess his financial decision making. Your bipolar radar arms when he showers you with love and affection¡­because you know, very soon, you'll be hunkered down protecting yourself from a painful verbal assault.

Many times I diagnosed my own condition as PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder). But it wasn't "Post." It is ongoing. So I decided to "stop the madness" on my part and learn how to "fish or cut bait."

I learned how to handle "my problem." Then I wrote a book to help other husbands, wives and partners, married to Bipolar Disorder (yes, it does seem that way most of the time!), who are caught in the same love/chaol/trama drama I was in.

This is the book you'll read when you've already read
the hundreds of other websites, books and newsletters,
attended all the bipolar support groups and workshops and
exhausted the patience of your friends and family
¨Cand you still don't have answers for YOU.
Let me Repeat: The chaos in your relationship is not your fault.

When you love someone with a bipolar disorder diagnosis, your relationship is not on a level playing field with other loving relationships you've admired.

You're probably applying problem-solving skills that you learned from your relationship role models: your parents, your friends¨Ceven TV couples like "Lucy and Ricky." But those relationships¨Cyes, even the fantasy TV storylines (!)¨Cwill never have the same roadblocks and heartaches that you tackle every single day of your life with a mentally ill partner.

How much do you REALLY know about mental illness?

Even if you've read a few books, surfed online and gone to a few support groups, you are no match for your bipolar husband or wife. In fact, you are at a tremendous disadvantage.

You Are in "Kindergarten"

Your Partner Has a "PhD" in Bipolar Disorder. This "degree" may not help him find a "cure" or steer him toward acceptance of his illness, but he's been through a lifetime of mental machinations that you will never understand or keep pace with. It's downright exhausting!

Here Are Just a Few of the Questions My Readers Asked Me (¡­And My Response!)

"Why do their moods change to where you absolutely do not believe they love you and you wonder whether or not they're even capable of love?"
IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT!

"We have raging arguments and we're not very close. How can I get him to understand and accept that he has a problem and go get help?"
IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT!

"Nine months after I divorced my bipolar husband, he killed himself by hanging. He was sober and this 'depressed' cycle wasn't different from hundreds of others he'd been through¨Ceven when he was off his medication. How could I have known?"
IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT!

Think about it:

Haven't you already done everything you could think of,
plus more, to create a happy marriage?

Your in-laws think you're an angel; your friends think you're nuts. You don't know what to believe anymore but you know something's broken and needs to be fixed. NOW. TODAY.

The only thing left is to take some of that good lovin'
you've been dishing out, and spend it on yourself.

"Married To Mania" Is the Owner's Manual
On "How To Take Care of You"
My husband was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder at age 40, one year before I met him. (He's now 55.) Prior to that, I had never known anyone with mental illness (who goes around talking about it?) and there was no evidence of it in my family (did you know there's a genetic component?)

I spent 3 years in denial, 5 years in therapy, 7 years in intense research to "figure this illness out" and 13 years doubting myself and beating myself up, knowing that if I could be a better wife, then¡­

¡­You fill in the blank.

If you're like me, you probably already have. Despite mountains of reading, exhaustive web searches, many support groups and discussions with my husband, I always felt terribly alone in my struggle.

Where were the other spouses of Bipolar people??? I never met any. I never read about them. There were only 2 or 3 in my support groups. And they weren't interested in forming a "band of brothers." I felt totally isolated and helpless.

Albert Einstein said, "The definition of insanity
is doing the same thing over and over
and expecting different results."

Al was a very wise man. So I decided to try a new approach. And it worked for me! When I say "worked," it didn't solve my husband's bipolar disorder. But it saved ME!

There is only ONE ANSWER for saving people like us who are married to mania.

I identify and explain all the options in my book. In the "Married To Mania" E-book or printed copy (your choice), I give you a plan to grab back control of your life. You'll learn concrete ideas for handling those unexpected mood swings, uncontrollable outbursts of anger, inevitable guilt and remorse (yours and theirs), and the devastating emotions you'll have when you realize that the life partner you've chosen is no longer the person you married.

Here Are the Facts:
The divorce rate is 2 to 3 times higher for families with mental illness than in the general population (which is already 50% and rising!)
60% of Bipolar/Manic Depressives have drug, alcohol substance abuse problems or other addictions like internet pornography
1 in 6 of those with Bipolar Disorder commit suicide

Think You Can Beat These Odds,
And Stay Married on Your Own????
How's that Been Working out so Far???

"Thank you for the book. I just downloaded it, and I know from reading the forward that I have reached a resource I have been unable to find elsewhere for coping for life with my BP wife. I am on page 79 of your book. It's like looking in a mirror. I've never met anyone else going through these same issues-it certainly is encouraging to feel like I'm not the only one in this boat!" M.P., Indiana

"The most significant learning that psychotherapists like me receive comes from the personal experiences of those individuals who have lived it. In "Married to Mania," author Elizabeth Atlas does just that. Her book is rich in conveying the critical issues that real people face when coping with Bipolar Disorder. She provides a much needed perspective plus practical advice, hope and help for spouses coping with a partner's mental illness. I strongly recommend this book!" ¨CJoanne Wolf Small, M.S.W.

As much as you may love someone with Bipolar Disorder, your future will be seriously altered by having this person in your life. Whether you decide to stay in the relationship, or cut the ties and move on, you must base your decision on facts, not emotions. And that's exactly what I'll show you how to do in "Married To Mania."
How many times have you asked yourself these questions?
What can I do to make our relationship less stressful?
Will he ever get better?
Will she ever be able to stop taking her medicine?
Why can't I convince him to trust me?
Will I ever be able to trust him?
Why is he so hard on everyone around him who loves him?
How can I predict when her mood swings will occur?
How can I protect my children?
Should I marry my bipolar girlfriend? My manic depressive boyfriend?
Should I divorce my bipolar husband?
I love him. Is there any hope for us?
I've made ordering "Married To Mania" very simple.
You have 3 choices on how to absorb this new information
in the way that you learn best:

E-Book in Adobe PDF format (downloadable instantly if you choose this option)
Hard-Copy Printed and Bound Report
A Bundle of both
And I have 3 Bonus Gifts for you, too!
BONUS #1: FREE SHIPPING when you purchase the "Married To Mania" Bundle. (The Bundle includes the instant downloadable e-book and the hard-copy printed book will be mailed to you so you can flag pages, highlight important passages and rip out the checklists)
BONUS #2: "The Partner's Definitive Guide To a Bipolar Disorder Vocabulary" ($29 Value) This is a must-have resource to learn the proper words to identify side effects, medications and episode symptoms so you can talk intelligently with the psychiatrists and mental health professionals. It's just one weapon in your arsenal to help you combat what I call the "Medical Industrial Complex" who are DECIDEDLY NOT on your side.
BONUS #3: "The Spouse's Bi Polar Disorder Million Dollar Rolodex," (Priceless!) a compendium of organizations, publications, articles, websites and books citing all the latest research in psychiatry, psychology and family therapy on Bipolar Disorder. It includes a special section on self-help resources for spouses (not the touchy-feely kind¡­the real action-plan kind that can help you stay sane and functional and¨Cdare we say it¨Cthrive in your marriage to mania.)
"Married To Mania" lays out more than 15 proven concepts you'll want to read or listen to over and over again so you can practice new behaviors that I guarantee will make your life more livable¨Cregardless of whether you stay with your bipolar partner or leave him. (I say "him," but these strategies are for any spouse or significant other: husband or wife, girlfriend or boyfriend of a bipolar partner.)
"I was looking for ways my son could cope with being married to a bipolar person. This book answered many questions. My son hopes to use some of the suggestions the author names. I'm happy I found this book on the Internet, and I want everyone to read it!" ¡ª Ruth, Wyoming

My book, "Married To Mania" and the bipolar information it covers
is for anyone who cares so much about a sick spouse or partner
that they're putting their own mental health and well-being at risk.
If you're reading this website, that means YOU! So¡­